It’s easy to look at someone else and point out what’s wrong. What’s harder? Looking in the mirror and remembering that we’re not perfect either.

Emma nailed it—words matter. Once you speak them, you can’t take them back. They can either build someone up or tear them down. And Caroline reminded us of something huge: you are made in the image of God—and so is the person next to you. Even with their flaws. Even with yours.

When you judge others harshly, you’re holding them to a standard you can’t even meet yourself. But God? He doesn’t treat you that way. He sees your “imperfections” and calls them beautiful. He doesn’t love some future version of you. He loves you—right here, right now.

So before you speak, pause. Remember the grace you’ve been shown. And extend it to others. Because judging doesn’t make you holy. But loving like Jesus does.

Reflection Question:

Who have you judged lately that you need to start seeing through God’s eyes instead? How can you choose mercy over criticism today?

Emma & Caroline (8th graders and youth students at Advent)